Solo sex or masturbation is most often a taboo subject, especially for vulva-havers. Before exiting the teenage years, the average penis-haver will have learned the best tips for masturbation. However, the average person assigned female at birth is often unaware of how to self-pleasure. As a result, it often bars them from enjoying (early) the benefits of self-pleasure.

This article seeks to rectify that anomaly. Here, you will find the various options to explore during solo sex. Bear in mind that just like sex, self-pleasure comes in different shades and variants. Thus, we will also be exploring the many combinations you can explore.

 

Why Solo Sex?

Why Solo Sex

The answer for this seems fairly obvious. However, a lot of vulva-havers are still skeptical about the benefits of solo pleasure. Below are the reasons you may want to explore solo sex.

Satisfaction

If you have ever wondered how to give yourself an orgasm, solo sex might just be it. Self-pleasuring allows you to explore your body without a partner being present. Self-satisfaction then may only come through solo sex.

Health Benefits

Isn’t it great to learn that you could be positively impacting your health through masturbation? When you pleasure yourself, feel-good hormones release in your brain. These include dopamine and oxytocin. Also, orgasm could help strengthen your pelvis. Self-pleasure benefits also include the fact that it is one form of safe sex. You will not stand the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

Improving the Quality of Sex

Self-pleasure tips typically help to improve your sex life. In the first place, you will get to identify your erogenous zones and what works and what doesn’t. Also, masturbation could help improve your partnered sex. It may help to direct your partner to the things that please you. Thus, learning how to please yourself can lead to amazing sex eventually.

 

Solo Sex Positions

Just like in regular sexual intercourse, solo sex has several positions to be explored. It may take a few tries to settle on the one that works just right for you. However, there is no hurry. These positions include:

The Old-fashion Lying on Your Bank

Solo Sex Positions

Excellent for clitoral stimulation when engaging in self-sex is one of the most effective because of how simple it is. Lie flat on your back with your legs splayed in the air for this style. You can then rub your clitoris, increasing the tempo as you like.

Squatting

An almost guaranteed way of achieving orgasm for vulva-havers, like the previous position, squatting is a comfortable position to practice masturbation. It can also be a helpful way to find your g-spot located along your vaginal wall. To try it out, try the following: squat down until the heels of your feet touch your thighs. Then use your fingers or a toy to touch yourself in a pleasurable way. 

The Reflected Gaze

The Reflected Gaze

This solo sex position is great for anyone looking to explore their body. It involves engaging in solo sex while standing before a mirror. Explore your erogenous zones while staring at your reflection. Admiring yourself can be a huge turn-on. You may want to smear lube all over your body or even use sex toys. For people assigned female at birth, the idea of exploring in this way may seem awkward, but it is worth a try.

The Doggy

Doggy is one of the most popular sex positions. However, you can modify it for self-pleasure. You may want to try out this masturbation idea if you are into anal play. Try lying face down on the bed and reach for your anus with one hand and your clitoris with the other. Massage both at the same time. This solo sex position opens you up to so much pleasure.

 

How to Have Solo Sex

First off, it is important to establish that there is no one route to self-pleasure. In learning to give yourself pleasure, the focus should be on the trials and not necessarily the climax. Thus, this could mean that you may have to try out a couple of options before settling on the one for you. The tips and suggestions below serve as a generic guide.

Relax

Relax

In discovering how to satisfy yourself, you must be comfortable. Hence, the first thing is to relax. Try not to be tensed or stressed and intentionally clear your mind. Listen to music, engage in mediation, take a hot bath, or perhaps after exercising. The idea is to find ways to loosen the knots in your muscles.

Learn How to Finger Yourself

There are right and wrong ways of fingering when engaging in solo sex. Your movements should be slow and sensual. Apart from concentrating on the clitoris, you may want to pay attention to the areas around it. Also, do not ram your fingers (or balled fist) into your vagina. If you must go fast, ease into it slowly.

Invest in “Masturbation” Items

Invest in "Masturbation" Items

When learning how to pleasure ourselves, we may need some help. Gadgets and items that foster climax, for example, any items that help set the mood. Use pillows and blankets to create a masturbation zone. These allow you to be comfortable throughout the session.

Sex toys and other gadgets are another way to stimulate your desire. There are several on the market, made explicitly with vulva-havers in mind. Beyond that, if you have kinks or fetishes, you will find some that will catch your fancy.

Discover Your Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones are the specific body parts that give you the most pleasure. Think of maybe your nipples, thighs, etc. It varies from one person to the next. Discover yours.

Go Slow

One advantage of going solo is that you can regulate things at your pace. Thus, make sure to go slow. Take the time to build up the tension for an explosive finish.

 

Sexual satisfaction is not a myth. As a vulva-haver, you could even attain this satisfaction all on your own. This article shows you how.

No one’s jazzed about Valentine’s Day. You buy your partner a present because you think you have to, even when they whip out the, “Seriously, you don’t have to get me anything” line. Obviously, you’re going to get them something; you’re not a monster.

If you’re stuck on what to get your partner for Valentine’s Day, whether you’ve been together six months or six years, here are some hot gift ideas for your beloved one: 

 

Intimate Toys

Intimate Toys

Everyone loves a good toy–vulva-havers and non. Don’t be afraid to ask your partner what they’re interested in. You can get super kinky with handcuffs and whips or keep it simple with a good ol’ vibrator. 

You really can’t go wrong with a vibrator. It’s great for solo and couple play (which we love) and bonus: your partner will think of you every time they use it. I’d recommend a few from Vibeplanet. For premium toys, they’re quite affordable. They’re made with high-quality materials so you don’t have to worry about your downstairs feeling funky. Plus, their low noise level ensures your privacy. 

There’s the Scarlet, a travel-friendly vibrating bullet. It’s pocket-sized so you can take it virtually anywhere. It’s great for beginners because of its precise tip. No orgasm left behind.

You could try the Monah, a rabbit vibrator, made with non-porous, safe silicon material. Its two heads deliver super intensive pleasure. Like they say, two heads are better than one. 

If you really want a top-notch orgasm, check out the Wandah, a powerful wand massager that delivers intense stimulation. It’s quiet and goes a long time with just one charge, so once you pop, the fun don’t stop. 

Now go get freaky. 

 

Massage

Massage

Sending your partner to a spa isn’t really an option right now, but that doesn’t mean you’re out of luck. Bringing a masseuse to your home is an option. You don’t have to get crazy and hire the guy who does Edris Elba; anyone licensed will do. Or, even more fun, give your partner a rub down yourself (complete with a happy ending, of course). 

 

Something Homemade

If you’re on a budget but set on hooking up your partner with a hot Valentine’s Day gift, DIY gifts are where it’s at. Sexy Jenga is an easy one. Write a steamy dare on each block, giving yourselves the opportunity to try new things. 

Similar to sexy Jenga, create a “sex coupon” book full of spicy things to try in the bedroom. Your partner can cash these in when you’re both feeling frisky. 

If your partner likes solving riddles, scavenger hunts are a fun idea. Leave clues around the house to guide them to their sexy surprise. Up the antics and set a time limit. Bonus points if they solve it in time 😉

 

Edible Intimacy Products

I’m sure you’ve heard of edible panties, lube, and other intimacy products, but have you ever tried one? If not, there’s no better time than Valentine’s Day. It’s the best day of the year to really get creative in the bedroom. Again, talk to your partner to get some ideas of what they’d like. If they’re not interested in any of those, you can surprise them with products you may already have around the house, like whipped cream or chocolate syrup and dig in. 

 

Flowers

Flowers

An idea if you’re looking for a more “cute” Valentine’s Day gift. I know giving flowers seems overdone and unoriginal, but flowers are timeless. They’re classy and easily accessible in case you forgot to get your partner a gift (it happens). Flowers are perfect for newer relationships too. It relieves the “we-just-started-dating-what-do-I-get-you-that-doesn’t-scare-you-off-or-make-you-disappointed” pressure. Add a bottle of champagne and you’re ready to go.

 

Staycation

Staycation

It’s like a vacation, but without having to go anywhere. Because of the pandemic, hotels aren’t an option now either, but they can be super expensive anyway (and they don’t wash the top sheet). Staying home means washed sheets, no overpriced mini bars, and WiFi that actually works. Another perk is you don’t need to waste time on lame tourist sites. You can spend the weekend drinking wine in the bath and having sex in every room in the house. 

 

An Experience

I think it’s expected to get people physical gifts, but experiences are something you two can do together as a couple. See a magic show, take a hot yoga class, go horseback riding (these suggestions aren’t for everyone, but you get it). Most major cities have websites showing what’s going on that week, so I’d suggest checking those first. It doesn’t matter what the experience is; as long as you’re doing it together (unless it’s jail time). 

 

Sexy-time Inspiration

It’s not easy to think up new positions (unless you’re a Scorpio, obviously). Once you’ve got the basics down, you pretty much have a standard rotation. An oldie but a goodie, Kama Sutra can help you put some spice back in the bedroom. It has tons of photos for position inspiration when you’re tired of missionary. If you start at 3 pm, you can probably get through most of the book by morning. 

 

Subscription Box

Subscription Box

A subscription box is the Valentine’s Day gift that keeps on giving. Every month, your partner gets a new box of goodies. It’s basically like having Christmas all year. If your partner’s into cooking, take a look at some food subscription boxes. If they love fitness, check out a lifestyle box. And for the vulva-havers in your life, there are subscriptions to make their “time of the month” a lot easier. What can’t capitalism do?

 

Naughty Calendar

One of the juiciest presents, your partner will go crazy when they open a calendar full of your naughtiest photos. Just make sure the site allows you to print x-rated photos (trust me: you don’t want them ending up at the photo counter of a drugstore). 

 

Shopping for Valentine’s Day can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be. This list has plenty of gift ideas whether you’re looking for something hot, cute or something in between. Remember, Valentine’s Day is just one day. Make sure you’re showing your partner some love every day of the year.

In the conversation about sex, the focus is often solely on the benefits of having sex. Alternatively, the internet is filled with tips on how to have great sex and maximize pleasure. However, few persons pay attention to the connection between the neurological system and sex. The experience is unique for vulva-havers and penis-havers, which calls for more attention to the subject. Beyond that, though, understanding the relationship between the two could lead to improved sex life.

Is Sex Good for the Brain?

There is still a lot left unexplored about what happens to the brain during sex. A good deal of research has gone into this because there are differences in what happens to the brain for penis-havers and vulva-havers during sex. Additionally, it is possible to notice key differences in how the brain reacts during partnered sex and solo sex. For both groups, the brain gets some stimulus during sex. Furthermore, the emotional states of the mind get affected, too.

There exist verified reports that rubbing the penis, whether during masturbation or by a partner, affects the posterior insula of penis-havers. The secondary somatosensory cortex located in the right hemisphere of the brain is also affected.

Both the insula and the somatosensory cortex are responsible for regulating pain. This invariably means that the sensations felt during sex is tied to either pain or pleasure. This is especially the case for penis-havers.

There are also marked differences between partnered sex and solo sex. Solo sex involves situations where a person self-pleasures and achieves sexual satisfaction on their own. Partnered sex, on the other hand, involves having sex with someone else. The brain acknowledges the third party in the mix during partnered sex, leading to a more pleasurable experience.

 

What Does Sex Do to the Female Brain?

What Does Sex Do to the Female Brain

The state of the brains of vulva-havers has fascinated researchers for years, partly due to the peculiar nature of people assigned female at birth. Their anatomy, being different from that of their counterparts, have often been the subject of curiosity. Accordingly, there have been different misconceptions about how their brains react during sex and after achieving orgasm. However, scientists have carried out some extensive research, reaching some consensus about the nature of sexual interaction of the brain when vulva-havers engage in sex.

During the research, ten vulva-havers had their responses to self-stimulation and partnered stimulation sampled. An MRI machine tracked their brain’s responses during the peak of these activities and at the beginning of the sexual stimulations.

The outcome of the analysis was quite simple. The scientist discovered some buildup of activity in the brain towards orgasm. The brain activity got to the highest during climax and slowly ebbed afterward. The brain sections with the most sensations were emotional and reward centers, including the area responsible for motor skills, too.

One clear fact now is that penis-havers experience more pain than vulva-havers when having sex. There is a simple explanation for this phenomenon. The reason for this is because the dorsal nucleus of vulva-havers is more excited towards orgasm. This excitement is important because this section of the brain has the duty of producing serotonin, the feel-good hormone. Serotonin also tamps down on pain. Hence, vulva-havers do not feel pain as much.

Another minor detail befuddles medical researchers about the process, too, which is the difference witnessed in the nucleus cuneiformis when vulva-havers have sex. Cuneiformis is the brain section that enables humans to control feelings of pain. Researchers disagree about the reason for this burst of activity. However, it is certain that for vulva-havers, it helps block out the pain.

 

What Chemicals are Released When You Have Sex?

What Chemicals are Released When You Have Sex

Before, during, and after sexual intercourse, the human body toils to secrete some chemicals. The chemicals the body produces account for the way the human body reacts to intercourse. Hence, the sensitivity of your nipples and the flushes of different body parts are because of these chemicals.

Some of these chemicals include:

  • Serotonin

This chemical gets released during the preparatory stages of sex. Because of this chemical, you get excited at the thought of having sex with your partner.

  • Adrenaline

This chemical controls the fight or flight response of the body. Common indicators include an increased heartbeat and increased blood pressure. It shows up during sex because the fear and pleasure centers of the brain are close. The brain, sometimes, fails to make the distinction.

  • Norepinephrine

It is okay if you haven’t heard about this chemical before – it is generally uncommon. This chemical is released during sex and not before or after. It stimulates you to have sex and is responsible for dilated pupils and sweaty palms during sexual intercourse.

  • Oxytocin

You must have heard of this chemical. Ideally, you can feel a burst of oxytocin, even when not actively having sex. However, this chemical, also released during kissing or cuddling, gets to its peak just before orgasm. It remains in the bloodstream for some time after that. 

 

Sex Hormones

Sex Hormones

Hormones constitute the chemical messengers the body has due to their role in transmitting impulses. Their primary job is to control impulses like appetite, growth, and even sexual development – the latter are called sexual hormones. The endocrine glands secrete them.

The common sex hormones for vulva-havers are estrogen, progesterone, and negligible amounts of testosterone. The most known of them all is estrogen and, together with progesterone, occupies a key place throughout all the stages of conception. Having a low amount of both may result in an anomaly.

A great deal of research has gone into ascertaining the true nature and role of hormones during sex. Even though these hormones are not present during sex, they influence it. For people raised female, hormones regulate how they respond to sexual stimulation. When stimulated, these hormones help the vagina get moisturized, increasing the possibility of vaginal orgasm.

 

Does Sex Release Dopamine?

Dopamine is known as the reward chemical of the body. It is referred to a reward hormone because it causes one to feel pleasure when you carry out an activity you like. Hence, it accounts for the ‘good’ feeling you have when you eat your favorite chocolate bar.

The ventral tegmental area found in the brain has the duty of releasing dopamine. From there, it spreads to different areas, such as the nucleus accumbens and prefrontal cortex.

During sexual intercourse, it is usual for the brain to release dopamine. It gets to the highest point during climax and is the origin of what is known as “dopamine sex.” The positive experience is why you would go back to a partner after having sex with them once.

 

Sex and Endorphins

Sex and Endorphins

The Central Nervous System, pituitary gland, and hypothalamus all secrete endorphins in different quantities. This hormone is well known for increasing (sexual) satisfaction, boosting self-image, and reducing pain. The locations where this chemical is released gets activated when you carry out specific activities. Thus, it is usual to feel a rush of endorphins while exercising or undergoing a massage. Foods like chocolates can also trigger it.

The key question, however, is, can sex release endorphins? Just like the case with dopamine, sex releases endorphins.

The brain fails to make distinctions between pleasurable activities. This means that the pleasure centers that get turned on during drug use also get activated during intercourse. Is it then possible that you could get addicted to engaging in intercourse? Most likely. But, in truth, it wouldn’t be sex addiction, but rather an addiction to the satisfaction sex gives you. 

 

Can Sex Affect You Mentally?

There are several benefits you will enjoy from having regular sex. However, in the vast majority of cases, the impact sex could have on mental health is often neglected. Below are the bonus mental health rewards from sex:

 

  • Eliminating Stress

On its own, stress may not be of major concern medically. However, it can act as a precursor to several other debilitating medical conditions. Hence, it is important to eliminate stress in all its forms.

Research reveals that physical intimacy with one’s partner could act as a stress reliever.

 

  • Increasing Cognitive Ability

Weirdly, having regular sex could potentially increase your mental energy because a huge portion of the brain gets activated in the heat of the moment. Hence, reliving those memories ramps up analytical and cognitive skills.

 

  • Sex is Invigorating

The plastic surgery and cosmetic industry booms yearly because folks are in constant pursuit of youth. Hence, they spend a lot trying to look and feel younger than their ages. Surprisingly, sex can achieve this as both partners burn calories during sex. Sex is an alternative form of exercise!

 

  • Increases self-esteem

You will be surprised at the impact having sex could have on your self-esteem. Generally, almost everyone is having sex. So when you aren’t, especially when it isn’t a personal choice, it could affect your view of self.

 

Certainly, a lot goes on in the neurological centers when you have sex. Of course, the idea is not to keep you wondering what those activities are, but to keep you in the know. While you have sex and perhaps attain orgasm, bear in mind the alterations, your body might be undergoing in that instant. This conversation gives you a full account of these changes.

A lot of couples struggle with their sex lives. The typical problems include an inability to achieve sexual satisfaction due to a variety of reasons. This problem affects vulva-havers than penis-havers. This is because of the unique condition of the anatomy of people assigned female at birth.

If this is your situation, then you have nothing to worry about. Scores of people like you have struggled with this challenge and somehow managed to overcome it. One sure way they achieved this is through using sex toys. An example of one of such toys that have been hailed to be efficacious is a wand massager.

 

Wand Massager

This article will explore what this tool is, the function it carries out, and how you can use it to achieve maximum pleasure.

What is a Wand Massager?

A wand massager is a very popular sex toy. It consists of a handle with a ball attached to its end. The ball rotates, giving the vibrating motion from which the magic wand massager got its name from. For some wands, the vibrating comes from the handle directly.

Wand massagers have a peculiar history that is tied to the feminist movement. Prior to the time they gained mainstream acceptance, sex toys, especially those designed for vulva-havers, were considered taboo subjects.

The wand was first marketed as a home appliance typically used by vulva-havers. Considering that in the early sixties, people assigned females at birth held sway over their home, it was easy to deceive penis-havers about the true nature and uses of the wand massagers. These personal massager wands were first used to unknot sore muscles. You can thus make use of it as a massaging tool. The sex toy has since gained mainstream popularity and is now mostly used for clitoral stimulation.

At the moment, wand massagers exist in different forms. You can get handheld wand massagers, waterproof wand massagers, and so on.

How Does a Massage Wand Work?

If you are worried that you do not know how the wand massager works, you need not be. A wand operates by rotating the round head fixed on its long handle. There is an electric motor in the handle that powers the head, causing the vibrations. In some cases, the handle is directly attached to the motor, resulting in vibration. However, this type of wand is not quite popular because the rotation extends to the handle, resulting in an unpleasant feeling when you hold the toy.

Another key thing to pay attention to is that the wand has to be operated by a battery, except if it is an electricity-powered plug-in wand vibrator. The original wand massager was made to be plugged into a power source to make sure that the device functions optimally. However, plug-in wand vibrators are no longer in fashion now. The latest technology advanced this model giving much more features.

How Wand Massager Works

How to Use the Wand Massager

There are no complexities involved with using the magic wand. However, the level of satisfaction you get might be tied to how you use the massage wand. Here you can find the instructions on how to use one such wand. Keep in mind a few important things:

  • First, set the mood. Before you begin the sexual exploration, make sure that you set the tone. This could include making sure that the environment is ideal, listening, watching or reading erotic content, and so on.
  • Afterward, start slowly, taking it one spot after the other. You can start with your nipples and move downwards. It is your prerogative to increase or decrease the speed, depending on your preference.
  • Do understand that you can use the wand massager to try different sex positions. It works great for styles like missionary, open-legged spoon, or doggy.
  • When it comes to how to use a personal wand massager, the important thing is to learn how your body works and understanding what achieves the greatest satisfaction for you.

 

What are Massage Wands Used for?

Massage wands are principally used for two purposes: a tool for massage or a sex toy.

Massaging Tool

Wand Massaging Tool

Body wand massagers can be used to provide relaxing sensations for the body. The most powerful wand massagers, usually those powered with electricity, can generate such a wholesome feeling. If you are experiencing pains in your joints and muscles, a muscle wand massager or a sensual wand massager can be just what you need. As a vulva-haver, a wand massager is perfect to use after a workout.

Sex Toy

Wand Massager

Wand massagers can also be used as a vibrator. You can make use of the rotating head to stimulate your clitoris. Wand massagers are typically designed for external use only. You can use it on your nipple, clitoris, or even penis. However, you may also want to accessorize. There are several items you can attach to your wand massager to aid insertion into the internal orifices in the body. Imagine the pleasure you will enjoy with a sensual touch hand massager stimulating your g-spot.

Why Use a Sex Massage Wand?Wand Massager

As pointed out in the introduction, a lot of individuals struggle to attain sexual satisfaction. Introducing help is often the way to spice up your sexual adventures. In this regard, one “help” that has been proven effective is the wand toy.

You may be concerned about your partner, i.e., if you don’t make use of the wand solo. There is no need to be. A partner that has confidence in their sexual prowess will have no fear about their role being usurped by the wand sex toy. In any case, your satisfaction is primary. Thus, if the vibrator wand is what you need to achieve sexual satisfaction, then, by all means, go for it. 

If you want to go sole too, the wand sex toy is the ideal tool for you. It is perfect as a clit massager. Its long handle is just perfect, meaning that you do not have to strain to reach your clitoris. One thing to take note of, though, is that the wand toy is often huge. If you are starting out, you may want to try something less imposing. When your body has gotten comfortable with the smaller toys (s), you can proceed to get a wand vibrator.

Do understand that the vibrations from the wand are so powerful that you are almost always assured of an intense climax. This is quite important for vulva-havers who experience reduced stimulation, especially as they get older.

 

If you haven’t heard of, or aren’t currently using a wand massager, then you are missing a lot. This article shows you the benefits of the magic wand. Now, you can get to using it. 

Things Everyone Should Know About Oral Sex

Oral sex can be equally stimulating and intense for men and women. You can use it for a quickie session, seduction and arousal, and preparing for penetration. The best part is how exciting it can be, especially as a surprise on the sofa or kitchen.

Fortunately, there are several oral sex positions you can explore. What’s more, is that the hottest oral sex positions don’t always include toys. This means that you can work magic with parts of your body–the lips, tongue, and hands for extra action. Also, trying different oral sex positions can help you reach an orgasm and find out which angles are comfortable for you.

Oral Sex Positions for Her

While no guide exists for the best oral sex for women, flicking the clitoris, also known as the “bean,” is known to cause intense orgasms. Before jumping into different oral sex positions for women, ensure that the woman relaxes both mentally and physically.

The Standard

Try this on your sofa or bed, where you can watch as your partner delivers subtle and intense licking between your legs.

standard oral position for her

69 Position

Are you looking for a kinky oral sex position for women? How about giving and receiving head at the same time with a 69.

69 oral position

Face Sitting

Imagine the intensity of having your partner please you while you arch yourself over their face. The best part is that you can control the intensity.

face sitting oral position for her

Doggy Oral

To introduce some oral sex toys for women, try getting head from behind. It’s a great time to enjoy some anal stimulation while you focus your vibrator on your “bean.”

doggy oral position for her

Standing position

Getting head while standing and placing one leg on your partner’s shoulder is also hot for oral sex.

standing oral position for her

Oral Sex Positions for Him

Men also enjoy the best blowjob positions for extreme orgasms.

Standing

Nothing beats a sneaky blowjob in the kitchen when one partner sexily kneels to deliver passion.

standing oral position for him

Lying Flat On Bed

Try a morning session with one of the best blowjob positions for men. You can watch their head pace up and down while you hold their head.

lying flat oral position for him

The Standard

This is a favorite among oral sex positions for men. The receiver rests on a flat surface and bends their knees. This gives the giver sufficient interaction with the genitals.

standard oral position for him

Face Sitting

Watch your partner from above as they suck your penis while lying on the bed.

face sitting oral position for him

The 69

For kinky blowjob positions, try the 69.

69 oral position

Best Oral Sex Positions

The best oral sex positions for you can vary depending on your needs.

Start with the standard because it allows sufficient stimulation of all erogenous parts, with minimal effort from the receiver. There is sufficient access to all the genitals, and the partner can adjust your limbs while you guide their speed with your hand on their head.

You can never go wrong with some doggy oral, especially when rimming. As you intensify the licking on the anus, the receiver can place a vibrating toy on their perineum or clitoris or vagina.

Face-sitting also works well for oral sex for men and women. You can hold your partner’s neck while they give you oral sex or pile up a few pillows for proper neck support.

Lastly, pull a boss-chair move on your partner on the sofa or car seat for great oral sex. Plus, you can seduce your partner into it with some role-play!

You can try different oral sex positions with your partner for sexual excitement, emotional bonds, and orgasms.

The idea of experiencing erotic feelings is closely associated with the genitalia. However, people experience erotic sensations on parts of their bodies located quite a distance from their genitalia. For this reason, you may wonder how many erogenous zones there actually are. Think of moments when a simple touch or breath against your skin made your senses tingle.

Usually, the genitalia, lips, and nipples experience more erotic sensations because of their particular structure. The anatomy of these regions includes specialized skin and more nerves, which increases the perception in the areas.

However, other basic erogenous zones, such as the neck, have normal skin and nerve supply, which means that while the erotic sensations occur, they need a different touch. Another exciting way to look at it would be to factor in the power of the mind and sexual feelings. Our brains are essential for arousal and help erogenous zones on our bodies experience tactile erotic sensations.

Mental distress can also reduce one’s ability to experience sexual stimulation even after experiencing touch on their erogenous zones. It’s also more likely to experience sexual excitement from a person one is sexually attracted to than to person one isn’t attracted to.

Female Erogenous Zones
Photo by Adrijana

Female Erogenous Zones

Women experience sexual arousal differently from men. First, the female body has more erogenous zones than the male. For most women, the gradual arousal of these areas, especially during foreplay, increases the chances of having better sex. Unfortunately, short foreplay sessions are a reality for many women, which often negatively affects arousal. The genitalia, breasts, buttocks, and lips on women are common targets for sexual stimulation. However, it’s possible to improve the experience through touch of erogenous zones of a female such as the thighs, neck, ears, and even feet.

But which is the most sexually sensitive part of a female’s body? The clitoris holds the trophy. In countless studies, the majority of women have mentioned the clitoris as the main source of orgasms. This is not to say that only the clitoris leads to orgasms, but perhaps, the clitoris causes orgasms because it’s a powerful pleasure point for women. The consequence of full arousal is what we call the orgasm. Some women also find sexual satisfaction through masturbation. It’s also possible to combine masturbation and sex with a partner. However, some women can only reach orgasm with their sexual partner(s).

It’s also important to look into myths about the female sexual experience. More often than not, the media, film, and pornography display penetration as the sole cause of female orgasms. Unfortunately, this false information has negative implications in many sex lives. It’s also worth noting that a woman’s sexual experience is also significantly influenced by their mental and emotional state. A sense of worth and openness about sexual needs is an essential aspect of healthy sex life. For people with sexual partners, the lack of communication and understanding can degenerate sex.

Social issues also affect mental health and consequently affect sexual health. The taboos and negative perspectives on the female body significantly hinder sexual exploration of female erogenous zones. Being able to appreciate and enjoy one’s body is essential to enjoying sex.

Male erogenous zones
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Male Erogenous Zones

Just like women, men also have male erogenous zones. These are parts of their bodies that experience sexual excitement either due to touching, kissing, licking, or rubbing. The standard erogenous zones for men as often peddled in general information around us include the penis, the buttocks and anus, ear, the lower abdomen, and nipples. However, other areas can be stimulating. Exciting some of these erogenous zones for males can have more powerful and intimate arousal.

Areas such as the ears can be erogenous in males through light nibbles and sucking, especially on the earlobes. Whispering into the ears can also arouse men; naturally, words have meanings, and if the meaning is sexually arousing, talking is hugely beneficial during sex. This also means that the brain plays a critical role in sexual activity, often influencing how we translate sexual cues.

Caresses and kisses, especially on the neck, nipples, and thighs, can also spice up the fun. Other parts, such as the anus, the scrotum, and the perineum, are also highly sexually sensitive. Usually, these areas require light touching and licking and are powerfully stimulating for men.

What everyone should remember is that there’s no defined manual for sexual pleasure, and it’s best to communicate with a sexual partner. Some men, for instance, experience no sexual arousal from their nipples. What many can agree on is that the most erogenous zone of a man is the penis. This would explain why many men experience orgasms from self-pleasure or sex with partners that involve the penis. The activities around the penis, which may include masturbation, penetration, and oral sex, can give a man orgasm.

However, mental and reproductive problems can interfere with a man’s ability to experience sexual arousal. Just as in women, being mentally present and having desires are essential for sex. This means that improving mental health can invigorate a person’s sex life. However, many studies suggest that men have an easier time experiencing an orgasm. This may be attributed to a better understanding of male erogenous zones, general acceptance, and positive view of male orgasms and the differences between male and female orgasms.

 

Conclusion

Both men and women have erogenous zones that are commonly peddled in the media and through cultural norms. The genitalia, buttocks, lips, and anus are constant in both sexes. However, other parts may vary in arousal due to biological and psychological factors. Sometimes, even the nature of sex can affect how sexually a stimulating touch on some parts of the body can be.

Masturbation can be a crucial part of every person’s sexual journey. Many people can orgasm through masturbation, but not all can or even masturbate. What’s interesting is that the touch and fantasies explored during masturbation are mostly different from those in sex with a partner. This could suggest that when trying to explore sex in different ways, it’s perhaps better not to copy-paste the methods.

Exploration and learning are some of the best ways to improve sexual experiences with others. Conversations and openness are also essential for people to open up about their erogenous zones and also teach their partner(s) to please them.

The mind also plays a critical role in eroticism. Anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem can affect a person’s ability to enjoy sex. Distractions and fatigue also affect sex. A deeper understanding of sex and a general acceptance of sex can also help more people enjoy sexual stimulation from erogenous zones.

When it comes to sexual pleasure and fulfillment, the clitoris is undoubtedly a major deal. In fact, it’s actually the only organ in the entire human anatomy known to exist solely for the purposes of sexual stimulation. It also has a greater concentration of nerve endings than anywhere else in the male or female body. Essentially, there’s no area of greater importance for the purposes of enjoying sex, and yet it remains a mysterious and often unexplored part of the body for a great number of people.

The Clitoris: What You Should Know About This Mysterious Organ

This clitoris is a complex thing, much more intricate than it’s often thought of being. Though it’s only 3 or 4 centimeters, or possibly up to 7 centimeters when erect, there are thousands of cell structures working to make it what it is. Only a small portion of it is actually visible from the outside, while the majority of its parts are actually internal.

External Parts:

  •     Clitoral Hood
  •     Glans Clitoris

Internal Parts:

  • Body
  • Crura
  • Bulbs
  • Root

Clitoris structure

On the very outside is a flap of skin known as the clitoral hood, which covers and mostly surrounds the glands. Though technically considered a part of the labia, it’s still associated with clitoral anatomy and also pretty important as the part that most people initially see. The glands below it, known as the glans clitoris, are packed with a dense cluster of nerve endings.

The internal parts of the clitoris are where you’ll find most of its erectile structures, meaning the parts that become engorged with blood when you’re aroused. At the very center is the body, which splits into two branch-like structures on either side called the crura. Behind the body, just between the vaginal wall and the labia, are the bulbs. At the very base is the root, which is where all the nerves of the clitoris come together, making it an incredibly sensitive place.

Clitoris Research & The G Spot

As you may know, the issue of the female orgasm remains mysterious, to say the least. According to biologists like Elizabeth Lloyd, no one really knows what really causes them or why it’s easier for some to experience than others. What we’re left with is the experiences of women themselves, along with a little survey data from the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy to gain perspective. It’s no surprise that a majority of cis-gendered women, about 36%, said that clitoral stimulation is necessary for them to experience orgasm. Another 36% reported they could orgasm with vaginal penetration alone, but the experience was less pleasurable. Only 18% of women reported that they could orgasm from penetration exclusively.

More enigmatic than even the female orgasm is the infamous G-spot. Though it’s generally accepted to exist, there is still no firm consensus as to its actual location. The most common assumption is that it’s located on the anterior wall about 5-8 centimeters into the vagina, somewhere in the tissue surrounding the urethra. Also controversial is how pleasurable the G-spot actually is. According to polls, the issue is about half and half. Some love G-spot stimulation, while others find it simply uncomfortable.

Clitoris
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Can You Squirt From Clitoral Stimulation?

According to the latest statistics, about 10% of people with vaginas can squirt from having contact with their clitoris alone. It’s actually much more likely to happen when applying pressure to the G-spot, but not impossible otherwise. The best and only way to find out is to experience it for yourself.

How To Stimulate The Clitoris For Maximum Pleasure

It’s an incredibly important fact that not everyone likes their clitoris to be touched the same way. What feels amazing to some may be irritating or uncomfortable to others. If one thing isn’t working out for you. you should probably try a different motion or technique. There are several ways you can go about it, so don’t be afraid to experiment a little to find what works best.

Above all, the thing most vagina havers prefer is Rhythm. 75% say they prefer a constant and repetitive motion like the beat of a song with light to medium pressure applied. Some may prefer being touched directly on their clitoris, but for others, this might be overstimulating and unpleasant. In fact, a significant amount enjoys being stimulated on the skin around the clitoris or an occasional touch to it without any pressure. It’s even possible to prefer no contact with the clitoris whatsoever.

How to stimulate clitoris
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Paths Of Motion

In addition to pressure and the area it’s applied, the path you take to apply the pressure can make all the difference. Tracing different patterns on and around the clitoris is a great place to start discovering what feels right.

Types Of Motions You Should Try:

  • Up & Down
  • Side to side
  • Circular
  • Pulsating
  • Flicking
  • Wide ovals
  • Long ovals
  • Diagonal
  • Squeezing
  • Pulling
  • Pushing/pressing

Trying these in different combinations of intensity and in different places will give you a range of sensations, some of which are likely to cause that delightfully ecstatic response you’re searching for. It’s possible to love any, all, or none of them. As is usual with sexual gratification, the possibilities are numerous and your personal favorites are bound to take some exploring to find.

Making The Most Of Clitoral Excitement

Now that we’ve covered the basics, you should have a firm grasp of the pleasurable potential clitoral stimulation can provide. Of course, there are plenty of ways to enhance the power and enjoyment of clitoral orgasms with the help of the right toys and sexual positions. The best orgasms are often the ones that come from finding something new that you’ve never felt before.

VibePlanet has the tools you need to reach the heights of ecstasy you need to quench your desires. Our specially designed clitoral vibrators are perfect for hitting the right spot in just the right way to leave you ideally drained and content. Be sure to take a look at our selection and remember that there are many paths to orgasm, but there’s always a way for more!

What Is Squirting?

While conversations around the female body and sex have grown over time, there are still several questions about female ejaculation and female squirting, and if all women experience this. In this post, we answer, “What is female squirt?”

During the peak of sexual activity, females may release a clear fluid from the vulva. This fluid is usually a mixture of uric acid and creatinine that is postulated to come from the Skene’s glands. These glands are the female equivalent of the male prostate and are responsible for the production of fluid that lubricates the urethral opening.

Sometimes, squirt is confused with pee. It’s not uncommon for women to pee during sex, especially after stimulation of the clitoris and g-spot. However, pee isn’t squirting. Peeing may happen due to the relaxation of muscles that control bladder movements.

What Causes Squirting?

If you’ve never experienced squirting or seen anyone squirt, you may have questions such as “Why do women squirt? “What makes a woman squirt? or “Is squirting real?”

First, squirting is real. Many women squirt due to stimulation on the g-spot, which is about 3-5 cm into the vagina. The area feels slightly more textured than the surrounding vaginal walls. However, instead of a single spot, the g-spot is an area. Due to its proximity to other regions inside the vagina, the stimulation on one part causes general stimulation of the Skene’s glands, hence the squirting.

While most people with vulvas can squirt, it’s not mandatory. It’s best to experiment with different sexual positions and masturbation to squirt.

Squirting
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What Does Squirting Feel Like?

For many women, female squirting may come with an urge to urinate. You may have been withholding squirt because of the intense peeing sensation. However, it’s possible to squirt and pee. Accepting the urge and letting go allows squirting to happen.

It feels relieving and requires you to let go of the tension in your vagina to release the built-up pressure. However, squirting isn’t a clitoral orgasm. If you’re still learning about your body, it may be slightly embarrassing, but it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Also, the amount of squirting varies for all women.

How to Make a Woman Squirt

The best way to achieve squirt sex is to stimulate a woman’s g-spot, primarily through fingering. However, arousal before penetration, whether with fingers or a toy, can help with vagina squirting. Let the pressure increase in preparation for the big moment.

Make a beckoning motion with your finger either slowly or quickly, depending on what the woman wants to intense stimulation. It may also help to stimulate the clitoris simultaneously to help with squirting. Using sex toys can also help create intense vibrations.

Sex Positions to Help You Squirt

Besides masturbation, sex can also help you squirt. The g-spot is only a few centimeters into the vagina. Therefore, you may only need 2-3 inches of penetration, accompanied by the necessary pressure on the g-spot.

Try the following positions:

  • The g-spot position
  • The launch-pad positions
  • Downstroke position
  • Jockey position

How to squirt

Conclusion

Squirting during sex provides excellent relief and can improve your sex life. Try to relax and enjoy overall stimulation before attempting to stimulate the g-spot. Most importantly, don’t focus too much on the squirting, instead, enjoy the sexual experience and let it happen on its own.

What Is a Bullet Vibrator?

Whether you are new or experienced with sex toys, bullet vibrators are a staple part of a pleasure collection. They are affordable, easy to use, and also travel well. They are enjoyed alone and with a partner. These generally small, bullet-shaped, and sometimes lipstick shaped devices provide intense point stimulation inside the vagina, on the clitoris, and other erogenous zones such as the perineum. A bullet vibrator is also a great place to start if you’re new to masturbation or trying to improve your solo play experiences. Bullet toys are also excellent for enhancing oral sex.

Types of Bullet Vibrators

There are several aspects to consider if you’re into a bullet vibe and are looking to find the right kind of bullet vibrator. A mini bullet vibrator is a great place to start. You will find a stainless steel vibrator to be durable, smooth, and discreet. Other quality bullets are made of medical-grade silicone.

You can also consider a wireless bullet vibrator that frees your hands for other activities. Remote bullet vibrators are especially great for couples because one partner can control the vibrations from a different location. If you’re in the mood for all-round stimulation, try bullet egg vibrators. You can use them around the vulva, instead of inserting them into the vagina. They’re especially great for teasing the nipples and other parts of the genitalia besides the clitoris.

A double bullet vibrator is great for couples looking to spice things up. Each partner can enjoy intense stimulation from the bullet vibrators at the same time, and control the speed and have fun together. Combine any of these vibrators with a powerful anal bullet vibrator for more stimulation and intense orgasms. When buying vibrators, be sure to confirm if they are battery-charged or rechargeable by USB, and choose the one that suits you best.

How To Use a Vibrating Bullet

If it’s your first time, you may often wonder, “How does a bullet vibrator work?” Bullet vibrators are petite and easy to use. After taking the time to understand how to switch on and control the vibrations, get yourself into the mood. Some music, erotica, and even kissing and caressing can get you into the right vibe. During masturbating, place the bullet vibrator on your nipples, inner thighs, the vulva and perineum, and finally, the clitoris for vulva havers.

You can also use the vibrator to stimulate your partner during oral sex. Insert the vibrator into the vagina while you focus on your partner’s clitoris. Use care when using the bullet vibrator internally. If you’re in the mood for extra stimulation, try an anal bullet vibrator. What’s more, is that you can combine it with a g-spot stimulator for explosive orgasms. But are bullet vibrators waterproof? Yes! There are plenty of waterproof ones you can bring to the bathtub and shower.

In case you’re wondering how to clean a bullet vibrator, some water and antibacterial soap will work. Be sure to airdry the toy and store it safely after cleaning. There are also select toy cleaning products in the market.

Bullet vibrators are excellent for intense orgasms, alone or with a partner. They’re also discreet and great choice for intimate play.

🍌Whether size matters or not when it comes to sex has been a big debate. However, the G-Spot has proven pretty effectively that vulva-havers’ orgasms don’t really depend on size, but the knowledge of how to use what you have. No matter how big or small, there are positions that will improve the experience for both parties.

What if he has less to work with? Missionary is a good option, allowing for deeper penetration. Placing pillows under the vulva-haver’s hips can heighten the experience even more.

What if he’s a bit too much? Spooning and cowgirl are going to be your friends here. The curvature of spooning limits how deep a partner can go, while cowgirl lets the vulva-haver control how deep and fast penetration is.

Size doesn’t matter. Like they say, “It isn’t about the size of the boat, it’s about the motion of the ocean.” What is important is choosing a good position that works with what you have, not against it.

Besides, penetration isn’t the end-all, be-all of sex. People tend to think of using hands and mouths as the build-up to the “main act” when these can really be just as much fun. Also, don’t underestimate how much sex toys can add to the experience. You don’t have to limit your partners based on size. Big or small, you can still have a good time.