What Is Masturbation?

Before we start talking about it, we should make sure that we understand what masturbation is. The textbook definition tells us that masturbation is the stimulation of the genitals for sexual pleasure by various means, excluding sexual intercourse. When someone masturbates, they pleasure themselves to achieve orgasm. 

Masturbation Side Effects

People have heard all kinds of things about masturbation, but it can be challenging to separate fact from fiction. While some people believe that masturbating is a healthy practice, others insist there are adverse side effects of masturbation. Some believe that excessive masturbation can have significant side effects that can affect one’s relationship, health, and lifestyle.

Below, we will delve into some of these side effects and attempt to distinguish between myth and fact. These include:

  • Masturbating often leads to erectile dysfunction
  • Committed couples do not masturbate
  • Masturbation has no health benefits
  • Masturbating can lead to prostate cancer
  • Masturbation is harmful during pregnancy

Penis Owners Who Masturbate Regularly Will Have Erectile Dysfunction

Does masturbation cause erectile dysfunction? The short answer is no. There is no scientific evidence that proves masturbating causes erectile dysfunction. Some believe masturbation has the opposite effect on erectile dysfunction. Some studies have suggested that abstaining from sex and masturbation may lower your sex drive and lead to erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction has many risk factors, one of the most common being anxiety. Still, research shows us masturbating is not one of those factors.

People in Relationships Do Not Masturbate

While women regularly masturbate, it is something that society traditionally associated more with men. So, a common question people ask is why men in relationships masturbate? This question has a more complex answer than “It feels good.” People who ask this question generally tend to believe that because the man has a committed partner, they should not need to masturbate anymore. Their partner should fulfill their sexual needs. However, solo sex is an important, healthy experience. It gives us time to ourselves. Masturbating also comes with less pressure because you do not have to worry about pleasing your partner or your partner pleasing you. It is just about you.

It is perfectly natural for men and women to masturbate, even if they are in a committed relationship. In fact, including masturbation in your relationship is a great way to maintain a healthy relationship. Studies have shown that solo sex can increase your sex drive and the likelihood that you will orgasm during sex.

There Are No Health Benefits to Masturbation

One of the big myths of masturbation is that there are no health benefits. This is indeed a myth, as masturbating has several health benefits for all of us, including:

  • Relieves stress and tension
  • Helps you fall asleep
  • Can help boost your mood
  •  Helps to relieve pain and cramps
  • Improves libido

Not only does masturbating offer these benefits, but it is also a safer option than sex. Masturbation comes with no risk of pregnancy or STDs. It also has specific benefits for older women going through menopause, as it increases the production of vaginal lubrication and reduces vaginal dryness.

Masturbation Causes Prostate Cancer

It is harder to tell if this potential side effect is fact or fiction, as different studies have had conflicting results. Right now, there is no conclusive evidence that masturbating leads to or prevents prostate cancer. A 2008 study has shown that it increases the potential for developing prostate cancer. However, a 2003 and 2016 study showed the opposite. It suggested that men who masturbate often have reduced chances of getting prostate cancer. 

Masturbation During Pregnancy

Pregnancy can have various effects on a woman’s libido. Some experience lowered sex drives and lost interest in sex, while others have an increased sex drive. One common question pregnant women ask is whether masturbation is bad for pregnancy. While it is important to talk to your doctor about such matters, generally speaking, masturbation during pregnancy is completely safe, including using sex toys. However, it is imperative to make sure they are clean. Masturbating has a lot of health benefits that pregnant people might find extremely helpful, including reducing stress, inducing sleep, and relieving discomfort/pain. Masturbation is also generally safe during late pregnancy as well, though you may experience cramps similar to Braxton-Hicks contractions after orgasm. This is entirely normal and is not a cause for concern.


Sex and masturbation have been a taboo topic for hundreds of years. However, these topics are slowly but surely becoming less taboo, and there have been more and more studies done on them. Because masturbating was seen as immoral and forbidden, a lot of myths have sprung up around the topic. We must determine what is myth and what is fact. Masturbation is a healthy, natural part of life. There is no scientific evidence that suggests it causes erectile dysfunction. Some studies have shown that masturbating may prevent it. Masturbating is also a normal part of any relationship, with studies showing that couples who masturbate have higher sex drives and more pleasurable sex.

Masturbating has plenty of health benefits; some of the most common are relief from stress, pain, and tension. Speaking of health and masturbation, no evidence masturbating frequently will lead to prostate cancer. There is also no evidence that masturbation decreases the risk of prostate cancer. What there is evidence for is the benefits of masturbation during pregnancy. Unless you have a high-risk pregnancy, masturbating is a safe way to release tension and can help reduce stress and alleviate pain in pregnant women. It can also help them fall asleep, something many women struggle with during pregnancy.

Overall masturbating is a natural process and something that should not be discouraged. It is important to remember that if you have questions or concerns, you can always seek medical advice from your doctor. That being said, there is no evidence that masturbation is harmful to our relationships, lifestyles, or work lives. 

How to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Sex, like many things in life, can get stale if you repeat the same acts over and over. Having routine sex, again and again, is a great way to turn something that is supposed to be a fun, exciting experience into something dull and overly familiar.

With all the benefits to sex, it is essential to have a healthy sex life. So, how can you spice up your sex life? What can you do to improve sex? There are a few factors that can make sex better. They include:

  • Directing your attention to what’s important during sex
  • Eating a healthy diet
  • Decreasing the amount of alcohol you consume
  • Use sex products to bring new experiences into the bedroom

All of these are great ways to improve sex and make sure you have a healthy sex life. So, let’s dive deeper into these factors.

Stop Focusing on Sex (Too Much)

It might sound contradictory at first. How am I supposed to work on improving my sex life while not focusing on sex? There are a few key points to keep in mind. One, there is nothing wrong with thinking about sex. However, focusing on anything to the end of obsession can be a bad thing. Also, it’s important to not just think about sex as something physical. It can be a very romantic, intimate experience, and it can be essential to focus on the emotions of you and your partner rather than the act itself. A constant focus on sex can be unhealthy, and it can cause you to develop unhealthy attitudes towards sex and masturbation. 


How can you stop thinking about sex? There are plenty of strategies that people use to stop focusing on sex.

  • Learn to recognize and avoid triggers. 
  • Find creative outlets to devote your time and energy to. 
  • Keep busy. 
  • Try to think of something unsexy. 

Remember, there is nothing wrong with thinking about sex. However, focusing on sex too much can take away from the pleasure of it and may leave your partner disgruntled.

Maintain a Diet for a Healthy Sex Life

This one is a little more self-explanatory. Eating a balanced diet boosts your immune system, prevents certain diseases and medical conditions, and gives you more energy. Eating a poor diet has many negative consequences, and one of those is that it impacts your sex drive. If you have less energy, you likely won’t be as interested in sex. Also, a poor diet can lead to health conditions that make having sex harder. For example, one major cause of erectile dysfunction is obesity and diabetes. Studies have also shown that improving your heart health improves blood flow through the body, which is an important factor in sex.

So, what is a proper diet for a better sex life? What should you be eating? A healthy diet of fruits, vegetables, lean meats, whole grains, nuts, etc. is the best option. Also, eat less fatty foods or foods with high sugar content. Eating more of these high-calorie foods will lead to weight gain, which could, in turn, lead to health problems.

Limit Your Alcohol Consumption

Many people relate alcohol with sex, as it can lower your inhibitions. A big cliche in media is a person getting drunk and having an increased sex drive. However, just because alcohol might increase your likelihood of engaging in sex, does not mean it helps you have a healthy sex life. Alcohol consumption can lead to developing certain medical conditions. Studies show that alcohol is linked to erectile dysfunction. 

Alcohol does not only negatively impact you physically, but it also affects your behavior. When you are drunk, you are more likely to engage in risky activities, including unprotected sex. This leads to an unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. Your behavior while drunk can also put a strain on the people around you, affecting your relationships with them. If you want a healthy sex life, you should do whatever you can to reduce your alcohol consumption.

Use Lubricant 

Many people mistakenly believe that lube is not for your every-day sex. It is either associated with menopausal women or activities where lube is needed to prevent injury, such as anal sex. This is not the case. Using lube during sex can be an excellent way to spice up your sex life. Not only can it generally make sex more enjoyable, but it can also make sex last longer. Plus, there are many different types of lubricants out there that can add something new to the experience. For example, there are flavored lubes or lubes that create different sensations. 

What is the best lube for sex? Well, there are a few main types of lube, and each has its benefits and drawbacks. The three most common types are oil-based, silicone-based, and water-based. 

No matter which lube you chose to go with, using lubricant is a great way to make sure everyone is having fun.


Use Sexual Health Products

Sexual health is important, and many products can help improve it. These include male sexual health products and female sexual health products. There are supplements that men and women can take to increase testosterone and estrogen. Sex toys can also help improve sexual wellness and can be an excellent way to spice up sex in the bedroom. There are also products out there that keep you healthy by making sure genitals and sex toys are kept clean. Other products help to protect you from and prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

It is important to research what sexual health products are right for you. Everyone is different, and what might help one person may not be useful for another.


Having a healthy sex life is important, but it can also be challenging. Spicing things up in the bedroom is not always easy, and no one method is going to work for everyone. The methods mentioned above are all practical ways that can help. However, one of the best ways to keep a healthy sex life is communication. You have to talk with your partner and take each other’s feelings, anxieties, and concerns into account. If you think eating better will help, talk with your partner. Maybe you can diet together. Do you consider adding lube or sex toys will make things more fun? Figure out what you and your partner are interested in trying out. Spicing up your sex life is an important part of keeping up your sexual wellness, but it is one that is much more fun if you are not doing it alone.

What Are the Types of Vaginal Orgasm?

It is well-known that many people struggle to achieve orgasm when they are having sex, and some have problems when they are masturbating too. Studies show that a third of women encounter such difficulties while having sex with another person. One reason for this could be that many people do not know very much about female orgasms.

Studies are still being done to understand what causes females to orgasm, and even so, there is a lot we do not know. Some discoveries have been made but are not yet common knowledge. For example, did you know there are multiple types of orgasms? How many different types of orgasms can vaginas have? Experts have different answers for this based on the categories they use, but generally speaking, there are five types of vaginal orgasms. The different types of orgasm are:

  • Clitoral:  This orgasm is reached through the stimulation of the clitoris.
  • Vaginal: Lesser known about how to achieve, and few women can reach orgasm without some clitoral stimulation. This orgasm is attained only through intentional stimulation of the vagina and may be linked to G-spot stimulation.
  • Exercise-Induced:  An exercise-induced orgasm is as it sounds. Exercising activates similar parts of the brain and releases hormones like those experienced during sex. Exercise also increases blood flow, which can make the genitals more sensitive.
  • Sleep: There is also not much that we know about orgasms experienced during sleep, but they could be a result of stimulation from bedding or dreams/fantasies. 
  • Other:  This is a broad area, but it involves stimulating different pleasure zones, such as the nipples or anus.

G-Spot: Where Is It?

While talking about vaginal orgasms, we mentioned the G-spot. The G-spot is an extremely sensitive area, and people have found that a G-spot orgasm can be strong and intense. Many vagina owners, however, may have never experienced an orgasm through G-spot stimulation because it is difficult to find. So the big question is: Where is the G-spot?
One of the reasons it is so hard to find is that it varies between vaginas. An important thing to note is the G-spot is on the front wall of the vagina, and the easiest way to find it is when sexually aroused. It might also be easier to find during masturbation than with a partner. Generally speaking, the G-spot will be an inch or two away from the vaginal opening, though this distance will vary depending on the person. It can be found using fingers or a toy and moving up and along the vaginal wall towards the navel. The best way to find it is to go slow and experiment with what feels best.

What Can Cause an Inability to Orgasm?

As mentioned above, the inability to have an orgasm is very common. Many different things may cause a failure to orgasm. Some of the most common causes are:

  • Stress/anxiety – Stress and anxiety cause both men and women to experience lower sex drives.
  • Medical conditions/medicines – Some medical conditions and medications decrease sexual desire. If you feel that this might be the cause of your inability to orgasm, it is essential to seek advice from your doctor.
  • Lack of communication – Both partners must express their desire for the other as well as what feels good for each person.
  • Overstimulation – Despite what porn and other media would lead you to believe, too much stimulation is not always a good thing. Hard and fast is not going to work for everyone; some might need a slower and gentler approach.
  • Under stimulation – As mentioned above, a majority (studies show around 80 percent) will not orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. Some may need other areas, like the clitoris, stimulated as well.
  • Lack of lubrication – Not all vaginas will create enough natural lubrication for sex to feel pleasurable. Extra lube may be necessary to reach orgasm.


Multiple Orgasms: Is It Real?

Vagina owners can have multiple orgasms. However, not all do, and it can be hard to achieve. The facts are that some may not be able to have multiple, back-to-back orgasms. Some will be oversensitive after their first orgasm. That being said, vaginas have multiple orgasms. How can you reach more orgasms? It depends on the person, but there are some general tips.
Some recommend foreplay, potentially a lot of it. Others say that it is important to pause between attempts. It can be necessary to build back up between each orgasm. Many suggest a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Plenty of lubrication is also a must. The best way to figure out whether you can have multiple orgasms and what works best for you is to experiment, both by yourself and with a partner. Communication is also important. Tell your partner what feels right and what excites you — practicing a lot with help.


If you are struggling with an inability to reach orgasm, remember that you are not alone. One out of three vagina owners struggle with this, and a vast majority report not being able to reach orgasm through vaginal sex alone. There are many reasons why we can have trouble orgasming. If you are struggling, try experimenting on your own. Figure out what you like and bring it up to your partner if you can. You may also want to try mixing things up. Trying toys, for example, can be helpful. Stress and anxiety are reportedly the most common causes of an inability to orgasm in women and men, so you may want to try doing something relaxing before sex. However, if you believe that medication or a medical condition may cause a lack of sex drive, you should speak with your doctor.

What Is Pansexuality?

What does it mean to be pansexual? Pansexuality is one of the lesser-known sexual identities. Someone who is pansexual feels attraction towards people regardless of sexual or gender identity.

How can someone tell if they are pansexual? Here are some signs:

  • Pansexuals do not consider gender to be a major factor in a relationship.
  • They can be attracted to a person who is transgender, cisgender, intersex, gender-neutral, etc.
  • Someone who is pansexual also feels attraction regardless of sexual identity as well, so they might feel attracted to someone who is gay, lesbian, bisexual, omnisexual, asexual, etc.

People who are pansexual recognize others’ sexual/gender identities and are open to having relationships with people despite their identity. Pansexuals often feel attraction for who people are. For a pansexual, a person’s personality holds much more weight in a relationship.


What is the Difference Between Bisexuality and Pansexuality?

People often confuse bisexuality and pansexuality or think they are the same thing. The truth is that they are two different identities.  So how is being pansexual different from being bisexual? Below, we’ll go over some of the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality:

  • Bisexuality implies there are two genders, whereas pansexuality implies there are more than two genders.
  • Bisexuals feel attraction towards men and women, while pansexuals can feel attracted to someone of any gender.
  • Bisexuality is well-known. However, there is not as much awareness as pansexuality.
  • Someone who is bisexual is attracted to men and women. A pansexual can be attracted to someone who is transgender, cisgender, intersex, etc.

There are some similarities between bisexuality and pansexuality. Someone who is bisexual can feel attraction to the same genders as someone who is pansexual. Because there is less awareness of pansexuality, people who are pansexual often identify as bisexual first. However, after learning about pansexuality, they decide that they identify more closely with that label. However, being similar does not mean that they are the same and it is important to recognize people who identify as pansexual separately.

OmniSexual vs. Pansexual

What is the difference between omnisexual and pansexual? Omnisexual, like pansexual, is a relatively new label. Omnisexuality and pansexuality are often confused with each other. Both omnisexuals and pansexuals can be attracted to people of all genders. However, gender does not affect whether or not a pansexual will begin a relationship with someone. To a pansexual, another person’s gender does not affect their ability to love someone.  Omnisexuals do care about gender identity. However, they will still date someone of any gender. A good way to explain it is that pansexuals care about who someone is on the inside, not who they identify as. Omnisexuals will care about how someone identifies, but they may choose to have a relationship with them anyways.


Do Pansexuals Have Relationships?

Someone who is pansexual has the ability to be in a relationship and fall in love with many different types of people. There are some people out there who assume that pansexuals do not participate in relationships. However, this is not true; pansexuals can have healthy, happy relationships just like anyone who is straight, or bisexual or gay. Also, while they have the capacity to have a relationship with someone, that does not mean they will want to. Just because someone is pansexual does not mean they will be attracted to everyone. A pansexual tends to be attracted to someone based on their personality. What is important to them is who the person is. Pansexuals are perfectly capable of having happy monogamous relationships.


Pansexuality is a lesser-known sexual identity. Because there is not as much awareness for pansexuality as other gender identities, there are many misconceptions about people who are pansexual. For example, many think pansexuals are “gender-blind” or dismiss other people’s gender identities. Pansexuals will recognize someone’s gender identity, but that does not affect their desire for a relationship with that person. Another misconception is that pansexuals do not have relationships. The truth is, someone who is pansexual is just as likely to be in a happy, healthy, monogamous relationship as someone of any other sexual identity.

Pansexuality is often confused with bisexuality. Being pansexual means you have romantic, emotional, or sexual attractions to people no matter their gender or sexual identity. People who are pansexual are attracted to others based on who they are, not what they identify as.  Pansexuality is not the same as bisexuality. A bisexual is someone who is attracted to either gender, whereas a pansexual can be attracted to someone of any gender. Pansexuality can also be confused for omnisexuality, which is the attraction to people of all genders. Unlike pansexuals, omnisexuals do care about others’ gender identity, but they feel attraction towards people of all genders.