Is sexercise a thing? Should you think of sex as exercise? It’s not unusual to sweat, feel tired, and hungry after a long, pleasurable sexual experience. Are the calories burned during sex significant enough to classify sex as a workout?

These are a few of the questions any sexually active person might ask. After all, we all know that we work out our bodies during sex. However, do we perform enough physical activity to consider sex for exercise? Read on to find out more about the relationship between sex and exercise.

Is Sex Considered Exercise?

Sex is not only a pleasurable activity but one that also entails physical activity- whether mild or intense. Elevated breathing, rapid heartbeats, increased blood pressure, sweating, and some cases muscle pulls, are consequences of sex and physical exercise.

However, how can we compare sex to exercise? To answer this question, researchers organized a study where they monitored the effect of sex on cardiovascular activity among both male
and female participants. There were 13 women in the study aged 51 (+ or – 7 years).
The study monitored the heart rates (HR) and systolic blood pressure (BP) of the participants on a treadmill and during sex at home. In the women’s results, the HR was 64%, and the
systolic BP was 75% of the average rates on the treadmill. In other words, physical activity on the treadmill was more
strenuous. However, sex does produce moderate physical stress.

So, is sex an exercise? Yes and No. Sex is a type of workout, but it cannot act as a replacement for other activities. During sex, your body works at an elevated rate, as would happen during exercise. However, sex doesn’t yield enough physiological stress to become your primary source of physical activity.

How Many Calories Does Sex Burn?

In a study dubbed the “Energy Expenditure During Sexual Activity in Young Healthy Couples”, researchers studied 21 heterosexual couples to determine the calories burned during sex in kilocalories (kCal). The study measured the ‘metabolic equivalent of task’ (METS) to compare energy expended during different activities. Participants wore smart bands that monitored activity on treadmills and during sexual activity at home.

The results show that men burned 101 kCal or 4.2 kCal per minute while women burned 69 kCal or 3.1 kCal per minute at an average of 5.8 METS during sex. On the other hand, men burned 276 kCal or 9.2 kCal per minute while women burned 213 kCal or 7.1 kCal per minute at 8.4 METs from a 30-minute treadmill exercise at moderate intensity. From the results, sex burns calories similar to those burned during moderate exercise.

Sex As Cardio

Cardio exercises, also known as cardiovascular exercises, are aerobic physical activities. During these exercises, your body maximizes the use of oxygen in the body. As you move large muscles, the heart rate increases. When you optimize cardio exercises, your body utilizes oxygen efficiently, burns more calories, and builds endurance.

While sitting, your heart rate can be anywhere between 60 and 100 beats per minute. Ideally, your target HR should be 50-70% of your maximum HR during moderate physical activity and 70-85% of your maximum HR for intense physical activity. The average heart rate during sex is 100-130 beats per minute, equivalent to walking, jogging, or taking a bike ride. As for the oxygen consumption, the average rate is 3.5 METS, equivalent to performing a foxtrot or raking leaves.

Therefore, does sex count as cardio? Yes- if you’re raising your cardiovascular levels. However, the intensity is not adequate to provide significant results. An average male may burn four more calories during sex than sitting, but that’s equivalent to them walking. This means that using sex as exercise may require more time.

You need to increase the amount of time you spend during the act to use sex as cardio exercise. You can also boost the results of sex by preparing for sex. For example, you can activate your pelvic floor muscles through kegels.

Sex As Strength Training

Strength training is an essential part of the overall exercise. It strengthens your muscles, improves calorie burning, and helps you manage your weight. You can do strength training with your body weight, resistance bands, free weights, and weight machines.

If you’re hoping to gain strength through sexercise, you must subject your muscles to resistance and weights during sex. In most cases, you may fail. What’s more, you need intense sessions longer than 20-30 minutes, with sufficient movement for the muscles you intend to strengthen.

What About Masturbation?

Are you planning to get off tonight? You’re going to relieve sexual tension and flood your body with feel-good hormones. However, your calorie burn won’t be as intense as during sex. Masturbation mainly involves lying, sitting, or standing in the same position, with arm and leg movement. You can also bounce in place, but this would require the assistance of tools such asdildos. If you are using vibrating sex toys, you can reduce your hand movement.

To enjoy any calorie burning, you have to keep your heart rate up for an extended period. This could mean arousing yourself to increase your heart rate but holding off the orgasm as long as you can.

The Relationship Between Sex and Working Out

One of the major reasons sex isn’t considered a workout is the period. You can have sex in as little as five minutes, which is barely sufficient for a warm-up. Therefore, to use sex as an exercise, you need to increase the duration. Kegels are a great way to activate pelvic floor muscles and boost endurance and orgasms.

There’s a catch 22- if you want to build your endurance in the bedroom, you need to exercise more. Your cardiovascular endurance and strength translate to sexual activity. Fortunately, you can use exercise to boost sex drive. Increasing your libido means you’ll have a desire for more sexual activity.

Best Workout Sex Positions

  • Missionary: The missionary position strengthens the core and buttocks whether you’re thrusting or receiving the thrusts. If you’re on top, you need to engage your arms, core, and legs to stabilize yourself and thrust, and if you’re at the bottom, you need to prevent too much bounce back.
  •  Cowgirl: Riding your partner’s penis, strapped dildo, or using a supported dildo exercises your lower limbs. You engage your butt, legs, and pelvic muscles as you move up and down.
  •  Scissoring: You need core stabilization and leg muscle to coordinate movement as you scissor your partner.
  •  Arch: Use this position to lift your partner’s lower body off the mattress while their upper body lies on the bed. This position engages your arm muscles and the core, glutes, and thighs to thrust.
  •  Standing: This position requires superior strength because you need to support your partner’s entire body weight as you thrust.

Is Sex a Good Workout?

We can conclude that we can’t rely solely on sex to meet our move goals but it’s an important part of our regular fitness routine.

If you’re curious about the wondrous world of sex with toys or have used them during your single days, you may want to introduce them to your relationship. If you’re looking for ways to spice up your sex life or want to make your orgasms more intense but don’t know quite how to tell your partner.

However, introducing sex toys to a partner that misunderstands the next level of sexual satisfaction is possible by adding them to your routine. You may be embarrassed as coming across as “too kinky” or don’t want to cultivate feelings of inadequacy in your partner. Fortunately, there are ways to introduce your partner to explore sex toys for both your benefit.

Couple Sex Toys Are An Addition, Not A Replacement

If there are several elephants in the room, introducing sex toys as additions, not replacements, is the biggest of them all. There are many myths about using toys during sex that require debunking before using sex toys in bed. Many people believe that sex toys are for single people. However, studies show that both single women and women in partnered sex are familiar with using sex toys. Learning that your partner likes using adult toys can be exciting and overwhelming at the same time.

Another myth is that penis and vagina sex don’t need the help of sex toys and that sex toys replace the penis-haver in the relationship. This fear is often accompanied by the belief that a partner has to outperform the sex toy or that you have been having unsatisfactory sex. The fear is further fueled by ideas that female empowerment is detrimental to heterosexual relationships or a lack of self-esteem by the male partner.

However, a study dubbed “Prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by men in the United States” shows that 44.8% of men had used sex toys in their sex lives. In the context of cisgender heterosexual men with women, one study found that most men used vibrators during sex with their female partners. Not only is bringing toys into the bedroom common, but it is also proved to be beneficial for both partners. Couples who used sex toys reported healthier sex lives and positive effects on sexual desire, arousal, erectile function, lubrication, and the ability to achieve faster and stronger orgasms.

Using sex toys in a relationship is not a replacement of any partner, neither does it signify a lack of capacity by either partner. Sex toys act as additions to your sex life to enhance the experience. The most important thing to remember is that sex is a shared experience between you and your partner. A sex toy cannot cuddle and talk. It can only be used as a tool to improve the sensations you already feel when your partner touches you.

Pave The Way For These Kind Of Talks

Introducing sex toys to your relationship requires a healthy foundation. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • How frequently do you and your partner have sex?
  • Can you have sex anywhere in the house (if you have the house to yourselves)?
  • Do you and your partner talk about sex or share kinky thoughts freely?
  • Have you introduced changes to your sex life before, and if yes, how did your partner respond?

If you’re still struggling to talk about sex freely, or if your partner shuts down sexual conversations, it may not be time to talk about using sex toys during sex. Try and talk about sex more often and learn what your partner thinks about sex.

Once you’re talking about sex, sexting each other, and being intimate in different parts of your home, for example, you may feel it’s a better time to introduce the sex toy conversation. Be open about your desires, and encourage your partner to participate in fulfilling them. This way, once you broach the “partner sex toys” talk, your partner will think of sex toys as a fun way to enjoy intimate moments.

Do Your Own Research & Be Specific

You definitely have people in your life that you can have sex toy conversations with. And it can be so fun! However, be sure to do your own research. Having accurate information is the best way to fight the fear of the unknown. The following tips are beneficial for any beginner.

  • Never compromise on safety: Anything that is going into your body and coming into contact with your genitals should be safe for use. All your sex toys should be made from body-safe and non-porous materials. Glass, steel, and silicone are easy to clean before and after sex to ensure sexual health.
  • Go for vibes: Modern vibrators have multiple intensity modes, providing way more scope for the imagination than an average non-vibrating toy. They can be easily controlled and incorporated into partner play to provide the stimulation you need.
  • Keep it simple: Until you’ve felt your way in the sex toys market, there’s no need to complicate things. Consider good ol’ classic items that will less likely be just gathering dust in your drawer and are easy to use for both you and your partner. Vibeplanet provides excellent, classy beginner sex toys for couples.

How To Best Approach The Sex Toy Talk

Now that you’ve looked into sex toy myths and found several partner sex toys you’d like to try, it’s time to have the sex toy conversation finally. Sex coach Portia Brown recommends the following when having a couple sex toy conversation with your partner.

Don’t Have The Sex Talk In The Bedroom.

Your bedroom is your haven. It’s the space where you and your partner come together and enjoy sex. No matter how tempting it is, do not have the conversation in the bedroom or before and after sex. It’s best to have sex conversations in casual settings such as the living room, kitchen, or car. Your partner may feel inadequate or attacked if you have this discussion in the bedroom. Begin the talk when you are both relaxed so that you can have a productive convo.

Start With Affirmations

Begin the conversation by setting a positive mood. Praise your partner, tease them, and offer a compliment about their sex game. Affirmations are a great way to remind your partner that you enjoy having sex with them and reduce insecurities that may affect the sex toy conversation.

Talk About How The Sex Toy Benefits Both Of You

Remember that you and your partner are in a relationship. When you suggest using sex toys in a relationship, they need to appeal to both partners. You could recommend sex toys as a means of making their work easier when they go down on you or helping you reach an orgasm. The benefit could be as easy as your partner watching you enjoy yourself. It helps to use the information they shared about their kinks at this time and explain how sex toys may bring the kinks to life.

Give Your Partner Time To Think About It

You had enough time to research, think through the matter, and approach your partner. It’s important to give your partner time to think about your proposal and then respond. You want your partner to feel that bringing sex toys into the bedroom is a mutual decision instead of a selfish one.

Don’t Give Up

What if you talk, but your partner says no? It’s disheartening but not a reason to give up. Perhaps your partner needs more information and convincing about sex toys. Find out what their insecurities are and respond to each of their questions. Remind them that bedroom sex toys are in no way a replacement or a projection of your discontent with your relationship.

Take Time To Choose Together

Finding the perfect sex toys for you and your partner is a process that takes time and multiple tries. Once you confirm that you are both on the same page, start experimenting with small toys until you find something that works for both of you. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to find the perfect toy on the first try. Most importantly, remember to be collaborative during the research and use of the toy to make your sexual relationship stronger.


Using sex toys in a relationship is an exciting way to spice up your sex life. You can play with sex toys during both planned and spontaneous sex. There are multiple sex toys that you can try with your partner, including those that give them control of your orgasm. There’s absolutely no reason not to try a sex toy with your partner. Don’t forget the lube!

Solo sex or masturbation is most often a taboo subject, especially for vulva-havers. Before exiting the teenage years, the average penis-haver will have learned the best tips for masturbation. However, the average person assigned female at birth is often unaware of how to self-pleasure. As a result, it often bars them from enjoying (early) the benefits of self-pleasure.

This article seeks to rectify that anomaly. Here, you will find the various options to explore during solo sex. Bear in mind that just like sex, self-pleasure comes in different shades and variants. Thus, we will also be exploring the many combinations you can explore.


Why Solo Sex?

Why Solo Sex

The answer for this seems fairly obvious. However, a lot of vulva-havers are still skeptical about the benefits of solo pleasure. Below are the reasons you may want to explore solo sex.


If you have ever wondered how to give yourself an orgasm, solo sex might just be it. Self-pleasuring allows you to explore your body without a partner being present. Self-satisfaction then may only come through solo sex.

Health Benefits

Isn’t it great to learn that you could be positively impacting your health through masturbation? When you pleasure yourself, feel-good hormones release in your brain. These include dopamine and oxytocin. Also, orgasm could help strengthen your pelvis. Self-pleasure benefits also include the fact that it is one form of safe sex. You will not stand the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

Improving the Quality of Sex

Self-pleasure tips typically help to improve your sex life. In the first place, you will get to identify your erogenous zones and what works and what doesn’t. Also, masturbation could help improve your partnered sex. It may help to direct your partner to the things that please you. Thus, learning how to please yourself can lead to amazing sex eventually.


Solo Sex Positions

Just like in regular sexual intercourse, solo sex has several positions to be explored. It may take a few tries to settle on the one that works just right for you. However, there is no hurry. These positions include:

The Old-fashion Lying on Your Bank

Solo Sex Positions

Excellent for clitoral stimulation when engaging in self-sex is one of the most effective because of how simple it is. Lie flat on your back with your legs splayed in the air for this style. You can then rub your clitoris, increasing the tempo as you like.


An almost guaranteed way of achieving orgasm for vulva-havers, like the previous position, squatting is a comfortable position to practice masturbation. It can also be a helpful way to find your g-spot located along your vaginal wall. To try it out, try the following: squat down until the heels of your feet touch your thighs. Then use your fingers or a toy to touch yourself in a pleasurable way. 

The Reflected Gaze

The Reflected Gaze

This solo sex position is great for anyone looking to explore their body. It involves engaging in solo sex while standing before a mirror. Explore your erogenous zones while staring at your reflection. Admiring yourself can be a huge turn-on. You may want to smear lube all over your body or even use sex toys. For people assigned female at birth, the idea of exploring in this way may seem awkward, but it is worth a try.

The Doggy

Doggy is one of the most popular sex positions. However, you can modify it for self-pleasure. You may want to try out this masturbation idea if you are into anal play. Try lying face down on the bed and reach for your anus with one hand and your clitoris with the other. Massage both at the same time. This solo sex position opens you up to so much pleasure.


How to Have Solo Sex

First off, it is important to establish that there is no one route to self-pleasure. In learning to give yourself pleasure, the focus should be on the trials and not necessarily the climax. Thus, this could mean that you may have to try out a couple of options before settling on the one for you. The tips and suggestions below serve as a generic guide.



In discovering how to satisfy yourself, you must be comfortable. Hence, the first thing is to relax. Try not to be tensed or stressed and intentionally clear your mind. Listen to music, engage in mediation, take a hot bath, or perhaps after exercising. The idea is to find ways to loosen the knots in your muscles.

Learn How to Finger Yourself

There are right and wrong ways of fingering when engaging in solo sex. Your movements should be slow and sensual. Apart from concentrating on the clitoris, you may want to pay attention to the areas around it. Also, do not ram your fingers (or balled fist) into your vagina. If you must go fast, ease into it slowly.

Invest in “Masturbation” Items

Invest in "Masturbation" Items

When learning how to pleasure ourselves, we may need some help. Gadgets and items that foster climax, for example, any items that help set the mood. Use pillows and blankets to create a masturbation zone. These allow you to be comfortable throughout the session.

Sex toys and other gadgets are another way to stimulate your desire. There are several on the market, made explicitly with vulva-havers in mind. Beyond that, if you have kinks or fetishes, you will find some that will catch your fancy.

Discover Your Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones are the specific body parts that give you the most pleasure. Think of maybe your nipples, thighs, etc. It varies from one person to the next. Discover yours.

Go Slow

One advantage of going solo is that you can regulate things at your pace. Thus, make sure to go slow. Take the time to build up the tension for an explosive finish.


Sexual satisfaction is not a myth. As a vulva-haver, you could even attain this satisfaction all on your own. This article shows you how.

A lot of couples struggle with their sex lives. The typical problems include an inability to achieve sexual satisfaction due to a variety of reasons. This problem affects vulva-havers than penis-havers. This is because of the unique condition of the anatomy of people assigned female at birth.

If this is your situation, then you have nothing to worry about. Scores of people like you have struggled with this challenge and somehow managed to overcome it. One sure way they achieved this is through using sex toys. An example of one of such toys that have been hailed to be efficacious is a wand massager.


Wand Massager

This article will explore what this tool is, the function it carries out, and how you can use it to achieve maximum pleasure.

What is a Wand Massager?

A wand massager is a very popular sex toy. It consists of a handle with a ball attached to its end. The ball rotates, giving the vibrating motion from which the magic wand massager got its name from. For some wands, the vibrating comes from the handle directly.

Wand massagers have a peculiar history that is tied to the feminist movement. Prior to the time they gained mainstream acceptance, sex toys, especially those designed for vulva-havers, were considered taboo subjects.

The wand was first marketed as a home appliance typically used by vulva-havers. Considering that in the early sixties, people assigned females at birth held sway over their home, it was easy to deceive penis-havers about the true nature and uses of the wand massagers. These personal massager wands were first used to unknot sore muscles. You can thus make use of it as a massaging tool. The sex toy has since gained mainstream popularity and is now mostly used for clitoral stimulation.

At the moment, wand massagers exist in different forms. You can get handheld wand massagers, waterproof wand massagers, and so on.

How Does a Massage Wand Work?

If you are worried that you do not know how the wand massager works, you need not be. A wand operates by rotating the round head fixed on its long handle. There is an electric motor in the handle that powers the head, causing the vibrations. In some cases, the handle is directly attached to the motor, resulting in vibration. However, this type of wand is not quite popular because the rotation extends to the handle, resulting in an unpleasant feeling when you hold the toy.

Another key thing to pay attention to is that the wand has to be operated by a battery, except if it is an electricity-powered plug-in wand vibrator. The original wand massager was made to be plugged into a power source to make sure that the device functions optimally. However, plug-in wand vibrators are no longer in fashion now. The latest technology advanced this model giving much more features.

How Wand Massager Works

How to Use the Wand Massager

There are no complexities involved with using the magic wand. However, the level of satisfaction you get might be tied to how you use the massage wand. Here you can find the instructions on how to use one such wand. Keep in mind a few important things:

  • First, set the mood. Before you begin the sexual exploration, make sure that you set the tone. This could include making sure that the environment is ideal, listening, watching or reading erotic content, and so on.
  • Afterward, start slowly, taking it one spot after the other. You can start with your nipples and move downwards. It is your prerogative to increase or decrease the speed, depending on your preference.
  • Do understand that you can use the wand massager to try different sex positions. It works great for styles like missionary, open-legged spoon, or doggy.
  • When it comes to how to use a personal wand massager, the important thing is to learn how your body works and understanding what achieves the greatest satisfaction for you.


What are Massage Wands Used for?

Massage wands are principally used for two purposes: a tool for massage or a sex toy.

Massaging Tool

Wand Massaging Tool

Body wand massagers can be used to provide relaxing sensations for the body. The most powerful wand massagers, usually those powered with electricity, can generate such a wholesome feeling. If you are experiencing pains in your joints and muscles, a muscle wand massager or a sensual wand massager can be just what you need. As a vulva-haver, a wand massager is perfect to use after a workout.

Sex Toy

Wand Massager

Wand massagers can also be used as a vibrator. You can make use of the rotating head to stimulate your clitoris. Wand massagers are typically designed for external use only. You can use it on your nipple, clitoris, or even penis. However, you may also want to accessorize. There are several items you can attach to your wand massager to aid insertion into the internal orifices in the body. Imagine the pleasure you will enjoy with a sensual touch hand massager stimulating your g-spot.

Why Use a Sex Massage Wand?Wand Massager

As pointed out in the introduction, a lot of individuals struggle to attain sexual satisfaction. Introducing help is often the way to spice up your sexual adventures. In this regard, one “help” that has been proven effective is the wand toy.

You may be concerned about your partner, i.e., if you don’t make use of the wand solo. There is no need to be. A partner that has confidence in their sexual prowess will have no fear about their role being usurped by the wand sex toy. In any case, your satisfaction is primary. Thus, if the vibrator wand is what you need to achieve sexual satisfaction, then, by all means, go for it. 

If you want to go sole too, the wand sex toy is the ideal tool for you. It is perfect as a clit massager. Its long handle is just perfect, meaning that you do not have to strain to reach your clitoris. One thing to take note of, though, is that the wand toy is often huge. If you are starting out, you may want to try something less imposing. When your body has gotten comfortable with the smaller toys (s), you can proceed to get a wand vibrator.

Do understand that the vibrations from the wand are so powerful that you are almost always assured of an intense climax. This is quite important for vulva-havers who experience reduced stimulation, especially as they get older.


If you haven’t heard of, or aren’t currently using a wand massager, then you are missing a lot. This article shows you the benefits of the magic wand. Now, you can get to using it. 

When it comes to sexual pleasure and fulfillment, the clitoris is undoubtedly a major deal. In fact, it’s actually the only organ in the entire human anatomy known to exist solely for the purposes of sexual stimulation. It also has a greater concentration of nerve endings than anywhere else in the male or female body. Essentially, there’s no area of greater importance for the purposes of enjoying sex, and yet it remains a mysterious and often unexplored part of the body for a great number of people.

The Clitoris: What You Should Know About This Mysterious Organ

This clitoris is a complex thing, much more intricate than it’s often thought of being. Though it’s only 3 or 4 centimeters, or possibly up to 7 centimeters when erect, there are thousands of cell structures working to make it what it is. Only a small portion of it is actually visible from the outside, while the majority of its parts are actually internal.

External Parts:

  •     Clitoral Hood
  •     Glans Clitoris

Internal Parts:

  • Body
  • Crura
  • Bulbs
  • Root

Clitoris structure

On the very outside is a flap of skin known as the clitoral hood, which covers and mostly surrounds the glands. Though technically considered a part of the labia, it’s still associated with clitoral anatomy and also pretty important as the part that most people initially see. The glands below it, known as the glans clitoris, are packed with a dense cluster of nerve endings.

The internal parts of the clitoris are where you’ll find most of its erectile structures, meaning the parts that become engorged with blood when you’re aroused. At the very center is the body, which splits into two branch-like structures on either side called the crura. Behind the body, just between the vaginal wall and the labia, are the bulbs. At the very base is the root, which is where all the nerves of the clitoris come together, making it an incredibly sensitive place.

Clitoris Research & The G Spot

As you may know, the issue of the female orgasm remains mysterious, to say the least. According to biologists like Elizabeth Lloyd, no one really knows what really causes them or why it’s easier for some to experience than others. What we’re left with is the experiences of women themselves, along with a little survey data from the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy to gain perspective. It’s no surprise that a majority of cis-gendered women, about 36%, said that clitoral stimulation is necessary for them to experience orgasm. Another 36% reported they could orgasm with vaginal penetration alone, but the experience was less pleasurable. Only 18% of women reported that they could orgasm from penetration exclusively.

More enigmatic than even the female orgasm is the infamous G-spot. Though it’s generally accepted to exist, there is still no firm consensus as to its actual location. The most common assumption is that it’s located on the anterior wall about 5-8 centimeters into the vagina, somewhere in the tissue surrounding the urethra. Also controversial is how pleasurable the G-spot actually is. According to polls, the issue is about half and half. Some love G-spot stimulation, while others find it simply uncomfortable.

Photo by Kristina Paukshtite

Can You Squirt From Clitoral Stimulation?

According to the latest statistics, about 10% of people with vaginas can squirt from having contact with their clitoris alone. It’s actually much more likely to happen when applying pressure to the G-spot, but not impossible otherwise. The best and only way to find out is to experience it for yourself.

How To Stimulate The Clitoris For Maximum Pleasure

It’s an incredibly important fact that not everyone likes their clitoris to be touched the same way. What feels amazing to some may be irritating or uncomfortable to others. If one thing isn’t working out for you. you should probably try a different motion or technique. There are several ways you can go about it, so don’t be afraid to experiment a little to find what works best.

Above all, the thing most vagina havers prefer is Rhythm. 75% say they prefer a constant and repetitive motion like the beat of a song with light to medium pressure applied. Some may prefer being touched directly on their clitoris, but for others, this might be overstimulating and unpleasant. In fact, a significant amount enjoys being stimulated on the skin around the clitoris or an occasional touch to it without any pressure. It’s even possible to prefer no contact with the clitoris whatsoever.

How to stimulate clitoris
Photo by Bennie Lukas Bester

Paths Of Motion

In addition to pressure and the area it’s applied, the path you take to apply the pressure can make all the difference. Tracing different patterns on and around the clitoris is a great place to start discovering what feels right.

Types Of Motions You Should Try:

  • Up & Down
  • Side to side
  • Circular
  • Pulsating
  • Flicking
  • Wide ovals
  • Long ovals
  • Diagonal
  • Squeezing
  • Pulling
  • Pushing/pressing

Trying these in different combinations of intensity and in different places will give you a range of sensations, some of which are likely to cause that delightfully ecstatic response you’re searching for. It’s possible to love any, all, or none of them. As is usual with sexual gratification, the possibilities are numerous and your personal favorites are bound to take some exploring to find.

Making The Most Of Clitoral Excitement

Now that we’ve covered the basics, you should have a firm grasp of the pleasurable potential clitoral stimulation can provide. Of course, there are plenty of ways to enhance the power and enjoyment of clitoral orgasms with the help of the right toys and sexual positions. The best orgasms are often the ones that come from finding something new that you’ve never felt before.

VibePlanet has the tools you need to reach the heights of ecstasy you need to quench your desires. Our specially designed clitoral vibrators are perfect for hitting the right spot in just the right way to leave you ideally drained and content. Be sure to take a look at our selection and remember that there are many paths to orgasm, but there’s always a way for more!

What Is Squirting?

While conversations around the female body and sex have grown over time, there are still several questions about female ejaculation and female squirting, and if all women experience this. In this post, we answer, “What is female squirt?”

During the peak of sexual activity, females may release a clear fluid from the vulva. This fluid is usually a mixture of uric acid and creatinine that is postulated to come from the Skene’s glands. These glands are the female equivalent of the male prostate and are responsible for the production of fluid that lubricates the urethral opening.

Sometimes, squirt is confused with pee. It’s not uncommon for women to pee during sex, especially after stimulation of the clitoris and g-spot. However, pee isn’t squirting. Peeing may happen due to the relaxation of muscles that control bladder movements.

What Causes Squirting?

If you’ve never experienced squirting or seen anyone squirt, you may have questions such as “Why do women squirt? “What makes a woman squirt? or “Is squirting real?”

First, squirting is real. Many women squirt due to stimulation on the g-spot, which is about 3-5 cm into the vagina. The area feels slightly more textured than the surrounding vaginal walls. However, instead of a single spot, the g-spot is an area. Due to its proximity to other regions inside the vagina, the stimulation on one part causes general stimulation of the Skene’s glands, hence the squirting.

While most people with vulvas can squirt, it’s not mandatory. It’s best to experiment with different sexual positions and masturbation to squirt.

Photo by Lisa Fotios

What Does Squirting Feel Like?

For many women, female squirting may come with an urge to urinate. You may have been withholding squirt because of the intense peeing sensation. However, it’s possible to squirt and pee. Accepting the urge and letting go allows squirting to happen.

It feels relieving and requires you to let go of the tension in your vagina to release the built-up pressure. However, squirting isn’t a clitoral orgasm. If you’re still learning about your body, it may be slightly embarrassing, but it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Also, the amount of squirting varies for all women.

How to Make a Woman Squirt

The best way to achieve squirt sex is to stimulate a woman’s g-spot, primarily through fingering. However, arousal before penetration, whether with fingers or a toy, can help with vagina squirting. Let the pressure increase in preparation for the big moment.

Make a beckoning motion with your finger either slowly or quickly, depending on what the woman wants to intense stimulation. It may also help to stimulate the clitoris simultaneously to help with squirting. Using sex toys can also help create intense vibrations.

Sex Positions to Help You Squirt

Besides masturbation, sex can also help you squirt. The g-spot is only a few centimeters into the vagina. Therefore, you may only need 2-3 inches of penetration, accompanied by the necessary pressure on the g-spot.

Try the following positions:

  • The g-spot position
  • The launch-pad positions
  • Downstroke position
  • Jockey position

How to squirt


Squirting during sex provides excellent relief and can improve your sex life. Try to relax and enjoy overall stimulation before attempting to stimulate the g-spot. Most importantly, don’t focus too much on the squirting, instead, enjoy the sexual experience and let it happen on its own.

What Is a Rabbit Vibrator?

Sexual stimulation, occurring both internally and externally, is the best way for vagina owners to have an orgasm. While there are ways to enjoy both G- spot and clitoral stimulation, accessories and toys can make the process easier and more enjoyable. A rabbit vibrator is one of the most popular sex toys in the market. It’s not the name but the design of the rabbit sex toy that makes it appealing. Essentially, the gadget has a dildo, a smaller shaft shaped like bunny ears that act as the clitoral stimulator. It’s a great sex toy and works well for both personal and partner needs.

How Does a Rabbit Vibrator Work?

How to Turn on Rabbit Vibrator

Like other electronic sex toys, a bunny vibrator comes with a power button that switches on instantly. Some vibrators connect to smartphone devices, making it easier to control them remotely. The controls also come with several features depending on the vibrator model.

How to Charge Rabbit Vibrator

A rabbit vibrator can come with a battery casing, which saves on the charging front. However, most come with USB charging, which means rechargeable.

How to Clean a Rabbit Vibrator

Keeping a sex toy clean is critical because it ensures that you keep the infections away. The toy will also last longer when it’s clean and maintained. Antibacterial cleaners, especially those designed for personal toys, are excellent for cleaning toys. Please go over the shaft and the ears and keep it clean. You can also use spray cleaners and wipe them down with a clean microfiber towel. However, antibacterial soap, a thorough rinse under clean running water, and air drying will keep your rabbit vibrator just as fresh. Be sure to avoid soaking the toy if it isn’t waterproof and storing it in a clean drawer, preferably with soft lint-free cotton.

Using a Rabbit Vibrator

First Time Using a Rabbit Vibrator

If it’s your first time, you may wonder how to use a rabbit vibrator. Begin by familiarizing yourself with the control buttons to avoid fumbling when you need it. Most rabbit vibrators offer a dual rotation and vibration feature for the shaft and vibration for the bunny ears. Some come with reverse rotation and different levels of vibration and rotation to ease you into the moment before setting it to higher speeds.

How to Use Rabbit Ears Vibrator

In case you’re wondering how to use a rabbit vibrator for intense orgasms, begin by understanding your body. Find other sources of stimulation besides the genitalia. Caress yourself or read and watch something erotic to get into the mood, before bringing your vibrator out. Remember also to find a lube that works with your vibrator and with your body.

Tips for Enjoying a Rabbit Vibrator

You can use a pillow to tilt your waist slightly upwards when using a rabbit vibrator. You can also use it in the shower or use it for clitoral stimulation during sex with a partner. What’s more, you can use your vibrator and have a partner caress you or penetrate from the back.

When it comes to sex, kick the rules out, and find new ways to enhance it. A rabbit vibrator is a great way to enjoy back-to-back orgasms, whether alone or with a partner.

What Is Masturbation?

Before we start talking about it, we should make sure that we understand what masturbation is. The textbook definition tells us that masturbation is the stimulation of the genitals for sexual pleasure by various means, excluding sexual intercourse. When someone masturbates, they pleasure themselves to achieve orgasm. 

Masturbation Side Effects

People have heard all kinds of things about masturbation, but it can be challenging to separate fact from fiction. While some people believe that masturbating is a healthy practice, others insist there are adverse side effects of masturbation. Some believe that excessive masturbation can have significant side effects that can affect one’s relationship, health, and lifestyle.

Below, we will delve into some of these side effects and attempt to distinguish between myth and fact. These include:

  • Masturbating often leads to erectile dysfunction
  • Committed couples do not masturbate
  • Masturbation has no health benefits
  • Masturbating can lead to prostate cancer
  • Masturbation is harmful during pregnancy

Penis Owners Who Masturbate Regularly Will Have Erectile Dysfunction

Does masturbation cause erectile dysfunction? The short answer is no. There is no scientific evidence that proves masturbating causes erectile dysfunction. Some believe masturbation has the opposite effect on erectile dysfunction. Some studies have suggested that abstaining from sex and masturbation may lower your sex drive and lead to erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction has many risk factors, one of the most common being anxiety. Still, research shows us masturbating is not one of those factors.

People in Relationships Do Not Masturbate

While women regularly masturbate, it is something that society traditionally associated more with men. So, a common question people ask is why men in relationships masturbate? This question has a more complex answer than “It feels good.” People who ask this question generally tend to believe that because the man has a committed partner, they should not need to masturbate anymore. Their partner should fulfill their sexual needs. However, solo sex is an important, healthy experience. It gives us time to ourselves. Masturbating also comes with less pressure because you do not have to worry about pleasing your partner or your partner pleasing you. It is just about you.

It is perfectly natural for men and women to masturbate, even if they are in a committed relationship. In fact, including masturbation in your relationship is a great way to maintain a healthy relationship. Studies have shown that solo sex can increase your sex drive and the likelihood that you will orgasm during sex.

There Are No Health Benefits to Masturbation

One of the big myths of masturbation is that there are no health benefits. This is indeed a myth, as masturbating has several health benefits for all of us, including:

  • Relieves stress and tension
  • Helps you fall asleep
  • Can help boost your mood
  •  Helps to relieve pain and cramps
  • Improves libido

Not only does masturbating offer these benefits, but it is also a safer option than sex. Masturbation comes with no risk of pregnancy or STDs. It also has specific benefits for older women going through menopause, as it increases the production of vaginal lubrication and reduces vaginal dryness.

Masturbation Causes Prostate Cancer

It is harder to tell if this potential side effect is fact or fiction, as different studies have had conflicting results. Right now, there is no conclusive evidence that masturbating leads to or prevents prostate cancer. A 2008 study has shown that it increases the potential for developing prostate cancer. However, a 2003 and 2016 study showed the opposite. It suggested that men who masturbate often have reduced chances of getting prostate cancer. 

Masturbation During Pregnancy

Pregnancy can have various effects on a woman’s libido. Some experience lowered sex drives and lost interest in sex, while others have an increased sex drive. One common question pregnant women ask is whether masturbation is bad for pregnancy. While it is important to talk to your doctor about such matters, generally speaking, masturbation during pregnancy is completely safe, including using sex toys. However, it is imperative to make sure they are clean. Masturbating has a lot of health benefits that pregnant people might find extremely helpful, including reducing stress, inducing sleep, and relieving discomfort/pain. Masturbation is also generally safe during late pregnancy as well, though you may experience cramps similar to Braxton-Hicks contractions after orgasm. This is entirely normal and is not a cause for concern.


Sex and masturbation have been a taboo topic for hundreds of years. However, these topics are slowly but surely becoming less taboo, and there have been more and more studies done on them. Because masturbating was seen as immoral and forbidden, a lot of myths have sprung up around the topic. We must determine what is myth and what is fact. Masturbation is a healthy, natural part of life. There is no scientific evidence that suggests it causes erectile dysfunction. Some studies have shown that masturbating may prevent it. Masturbating is also a normal part of any relationship, with studies showing that couples who masturbate have higher sex drives and more pleasurable sex.

Masturbating has plenty of health benefits; some of the most common are relief from stress, pain, and tension. Speaking of health and masturbation, no evidence masturbating frequently will lead to prostate cancer. There is also no evidence that masturbation decreases the risk of prostate cancer. What there is evidence for is the benefits of masturbation during pregnancy. Unless you have a high-risk pregnancy, masturbating is a safe way to release tension and can help reduce stress and alleviate pain in pregnant women. It can also help them fall asleep, something many women struggle with during pregnancy.

Overall masturbating is a natural process and something that should not be discouraged. It is important to remember that if you have questions or concerns, you can always seek medical advice from your doctor. That being said, there is no evidence that masturbation is harmful to our relationships, lifestyles, or work lives. 

As parents raising young children and pre-teens, we know that kids are naturally shying away from conversations about sex. Kids learn very early that the topic is taboo.  It’s something mysterious going on between their parents, it’s where babies begin, and there are so many unknowns for them. We also know that even if their adults talk to them about sex, it may not become a normalized or easy conversation right away. In general, it may not necessarily relieve their outward awkwardness or horrified looks when faced with the topic. Perhaps at least not in the presence of adults. But what we may not see, until the later years, is how the kids whose adults have the ‘sex talk’ with them often, behave with their peers. More informed kids, who have received accurate and fact-based sex education, will have more mature conversations and make better decisions regarding sex and their relationships. 

What is Sex Education?

Sex education, as defined by Merriam-Webster, is the education in schools about sex. But the issue is, only 24 states require sex education between Kindergarten and 12th grade, and only nine states require to talk about consent.

In California, the Healthy Youth Act defines what sex education is for children, including teaching students about birth control, consent, sexual assault, and human trafficking. Part of this Act also includes having material available and used in lessons for LGBTQ+ people. 

How to Explain Sex to Children?

Before you even start to have “that talk”, reiterate that it’s a safe space. Some children may worry that they are in trouble for asking questions about sex. Some tips on how to explain it are: 

  • Keep it simple- this is overwhelming, so it’s best to keep it simple
  • Be prepared- there are going to be new words for them, so be ready to know how to explain things such as sperm and STDs
  • Have them ask questions 
  • Explain more than just sex- other topics include: condoms, STDs, consent, and sexual assault 
  • Explain that sex should be enjoyable, it’s a normal act that should feel good for both parties

Why Sex Education Is Important

The importance of sex education goes beyond how to have sex. Sex education does teach safe sex and different methods of birth control and even talks about how to safely obtain birth control and resources that are available to them. It should also hit on the fact that sex is enjoyable and shouldn’t be painful for either party. 

But sex education also talks about consent: “No means no. Yes means yes.” Consent is an essential part of safe sex and should never happen without it. 

For many, when sex education begins, the student’s bodies are going through new and scary changes. An excellent way to normalize what may be happening and help them be less scared or worried about their body’s changes is to prepare them for it. 

Benefits of Sex Education

Sex education is as beneficial as any class, if not more. It is a natural human experience that many students will be doing for the rest of their lives. The ample benefits include: 

  • Being able to normalize and talk about sex in an open and positive 
  • Removing any negative stigma toward sex
  • Showing children that this is a safe space to talk about any issues they may have
  • Knowing the importance of consent will help keep others safe

What Is An Appropriate Age to Start Sexuality Education?

Once a student hits 7th grade, most schools will start sex education, and some will reiterate it in highschool. Sex education for teens is essential because this is when they are most likely to begin either engaging in or hearing about sex and other sexual activities. So, it can never hurt to start sex conversations early. If you believe your child is having sex, then it’s better to be safe and initiate the conversation. 

Unfortunately, memories of sex education are often remembered with embarrassment since these are pretty valuable conversations. These early sex ed classes may be the first time children learn about STDs and STIs and that they are more common than you think, which is why you needed to practice safe sex.

While sex education is a nerve-wracking discussion for parents, teachers, and kids, it’s an important one to have. There is no shortcutting the topics, and it’s a conversation that’s needed. Everyone needs a safe space to talk about sex and learn about the new chapter in their lives. Appropriate sex conversations should happen freely and not seen as shameful. So keep in mind, sex is not something to be ashamed of or scary, and with the right sex education, it’ll help normalize sex in the long run.

What Is LGBT?

One of the most common questions people have about LGBT is, what does LGBT stand for? LGBT stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender. These describe the sexual orientations of people who are LGBT. It is a term that was adopted because it is a more inclusive and friendly way to describe people who identify themselves as one of these sexualities. Gay is a limited term and just because someone doesn’t identify as straight doesn’t mean that they are gay. LGBT is an apter term to use because it recognizes various sexual orientations.

What Is the LGBT Community?

The LGBT community is a group of people who support LGBT rights. This name does not include everyone that is part of LGBT, as the community includes many other sexual orientations. It also includes the Straight Allies, which are people who identify as heterosexual and support LGBT rights. Some sources may use LGBTQ or LGBT+ due to the growing support of LGBT rights and the inclusion of other sexual orientations.  The LGBT community includes people who identify with a sexual orientation other than heterosexual, heterosexuals who support LGBT rights and various LGBT organizations.

How Many People Are LGBT?

So, how big is the  LGBT community in the US? According to a survey taken in 2017, about 5.1% of the population identifies as LGBT. Around 4.5% of the population identifies as gay, lesbian or bisexual, while 0.6% identify themselves as transgender. These numbers might not sound that impressive, but the US has one of the biggest populations in the world. This survey tells us there are about 11.7 million people in the US that identify as LGBT. Surveys also show that, from least to greatest, San Francisco, Chicago, LA and New York are the cities with the highest LGBT populations.

Is LGBT Legal in the US?

The LGBT community has had some major legal victories in recent years. Homosexuality was banned in the US until 2003 and in 2015 gay marriage became legal across the country. For those who are transgender, it is legal to change your gender on your birth certificate and other important documents. It is also legal to have gender reassignment surgery. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell was repealed in 2011 and the ban against transgenders serving in the military was lifted in 2016.

However, the LGBT community is still fighting for certain rights. For example, while it is legal in many states for same-sex couples to adopt, there are still limitations. In some states, couples have to be married to adopt. In others, they have to be single. Some states leave the laws ambiguous, so it is unclear whether or not same-sex couples have a legal right to adopt. While it is legal to change your gender identity, some states require proof that you have already undergone gender reassignment surgery. There are no explicit laws against housing discrimination. These laws vary from region to region and could potentially leave LGBT people at risk.


The LGBT community is a group of people who either identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, etc. or support LGBT rights. It also includes LGBT organizations, including the Human Rights Campaign, PFLAG, Lambda Legal, GLAAD and many more. The US has a pretty large LGBT population, with around 11.7 million people identifying as either gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. The community has made major legal strides in recent years. People in the LGBT community are legally allowed to be married across the US, LGBT can openly serve in the military and transgenders are legally allowed to change their gender. That being said, the LGBT community is still fighting for equal rights.


There are a lot of people and organizations in the LGBT community. If you or someone you know is struggling with sexual identity or discrimination, there are resources out there to offer you advice and assistance.